Imagine giving every cent of your money away to charity tonight.
How safe are you going to feel the next day?
It’s pretty clear how intimately connected money and safety are in our culture.
At least, it’s pretty clear in ONE direction: having money feels safer than not having it.
There are countless practical, logical reasons for it, that may also bring up some emotions for you when I list a small handful:
- It allows you to buy food rather than grow it yourself.
- More money allows you to buy greater amounts of higher quality food.
- It’s needed for a lot of medical care (at least in the US)
- More money allows for more preventative check-ups, trainers, body work, etc.
- It pays the rent. More will pay for rent in a nicer place in a safer neighborhood
This could go on.
On closer examination, as well as from experience working with a wide range of people, there are all sorts of ways it can actually feel UNSAFE to have more money.
A very small handful of what I’ve directly encountered includes:
- More money means more taxes, book-keeping, accountants…
- You may have enough to invest, which you may then lose
- You’ll no longer be able to say “I can’t afford it” to everything that part of you wants to pursue
- You’ll no longer be able to say “I can’t afford it” to your kids
- Your family or others will start expecting more from you
- You’ll have to decide what to do with it, and the extra time you have
- Having money is greedy, sinful and will corrupt you.
This too could go on.
There are plenty of things within us that believe it’s not safe to have more money.
Digging into the nuances of these for yourself on a personal level is extremely powerful. I have had a lot of direct, backed by hard-numbers results for myself in my financial life by digging into this.
Because there are two sides in us (that is an oversimplification, but basically applies) – it’s safe to have money, and it’s not safe to have more of it, Inner Reconciliation can be an excellent process for working through it.
When exploring this approach, you let yourself fully take on whatever ‘voice’ or perspective is coming up. You give it space to speak and treat it as totally valid.
This means that while you are exploring the ways it is NOT safe to have money, you let yourself actually feel into the feeling of it not being safe. This helps you connect more to the deeper feeling behind it, where it can actually be processed. Deeper beliefs can also become exposed and be worked through.
Without this inner posture, what often happens is a ‘negative’ side comes up around money – we quickly judge it as being ‘negative,’ and get pulled into a battle in our own minds. It’s a ping-pong of safe vs. unsafe thoughts, attempts to control the thoughts, and much more that expends energy but accomplishes little.
Instead, listen to whatever arises within you as though it has a valid point. It almost certainly does — and that point is usually trying to protect you in some way.
The parts of you that believe money is not safe actually believe it is not safe. Most often, they are actively trying to protect you. If you dismiss them and try to turn them off, you will have as much success as trying to turn off your sweat glands or breathing response. If you listen to them, a dialogue can take place where they can shift their perspective.
Here is a video from my YouTube channel which walks you through an IR process around this topic.
I’ve gotten good feedback from it, and hope you will enjoy it.